Everyone needs love. Love can be shown in many different ways. When showing someone you care, a key component is to make sure that you are being sincere. Most people, including children, can sense when someone cares or is just putting on a show.
I saw a video recently that really touched me. I was amazed that one simple kind gesture really did change someone’s life. A young man was contemplating harming others and himself. Until one day, a friend invited him over to her house, and the friend’s mom made this young man a pie just for him. He said that simple act of kindness was a turning point for him. So simple, yet so profound!
Read on for 5 easy ways to show love to others!
- Spend quality time together!
Ask your loved one what they would like to do together or plan something fun that you know he or she likes. We live in a busy world these days, so try your best to squeeze in time when you can. Even if it’s just 10 minutes in the morning before the kids get up! Or if it’s your kids that need extra time, you could sit at the edge of their bed for 5 minutes in the morning before they get up. Talk to them, sing a song together, read a short book. When you’re with your children, friends, partner, or loved one during this quality time, it’s important to put your phone away and give them your full attention. Answer any texts or calls if you must, but keep it very brief when you are spending that special time together. When you keep your focus on them, they will see how much you care.
2. Use words!
Sounds obvious right?! Have you heard about specific praise? Most people like to hear more than “good job.” Giving people true and detailed compliments for a job well done is sure to make anyone feel loved. Be specific about what they did that you liked. For example, if your partner makes you a nice meal, tell him or her how much you appreciate the work they put into making you the delicious food. i.e. “You made my favorite dish tonight, you really put a lot of thought into this. I appreciate that. It tasted delicious!” Even a simple, “good meal honey, thank you” goes a long way versus just eating and leaving the table without a word. Before you go to bed every night, say “I love you” to your kids and partner. I know it sounds simple, but how often are we in a hurry and forget? Another idea is to send a quick text to a loved one during the day with thoughtful words. This could be a nice surprise to show that you were thinking of them.
3. Slow down, stop what you’re doing and listen…really listen!
Have you ever said hello to someone, asked them how they’re doing and didn’t even wait to hear their answer? I’m guilty of this, and I’ve been on the receiving end also. I’m sure we all have been in this situation at some point. In these fast pace days we’re living in, it’s so easy to greet someone and keep moving isn’t it? I know, I know, we all have things to do… However, stopping for a few minutes, giving a person eye contact and actually listening is much more caring. You never know what kind of struggles might be going on in the other person’s life. But if you take the time to truly listen, you may be surprised what people will say. They might feel relieved they had even just a few minutes to get something off their chest. So give it a try! Let the other person do most of the talking and truly listen to what they’re saying.
Remember to show empathy! After the person you’re listening to has had some time to talk, show them your concern and understanding. Sometimes a person just wants to hear the other person say, “yes I hear what you’re saying and I agree with you.” However, some people might also like to hear some ideas on how to solve their issue (if they have one). So if you have any suggestions or resources to offer, you could let them know. In the end, life is about giving and taking but also offering!
4. Do something nice!
A kind act could change someone’s day from gloomy to sunny! A kind gesture really can make a difference. Have the coffee ready and poured in the morning. Make breakfast for everyone at your house. Pay for a meal when dining out. Give or send someone a card just to say “thinking of you!” Make your kids their favorite snack! Do an extra chore around the house. Bring your collegues chocolate! I know a lot of my ideas seem to involve food, ha ha! It doesn’t have to involve food though. 🙂
5. Reach out and hug (or high five or fist bump) someone!
But before you reach out to hug, make sure you know if they like to hug. Some people are not huggers, so use your best judgement! But if you know the receiver of your affection does indeed like hugs, go for it! A quick hug, pat on the shoulder, a high five, or fist bump (it’s still flu season after all, lol) is sometimes just what a person needs to make it through their day. How about making up a cool hand shake with your kids? They will love it! It’s a special bond that only you and them share.
What are your favorite ways to show love to others?
Let me know in the comments section!
Until next time, remember, our words and actions really do matter!
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