5 Simple Ways to Show Love

Everyone needs love. Love can be shown in many different ways. When showing someone you care, a key component is to make sure that you are being sincere. Most people, including children, can sense when someone cares or is just putting on a show.

I saw a video recently that really touched me. I was amazed that one simple kind gesture really did change someone’s life. A young man was contemplating harming others and himself. Until one day, a friend invited him over to her house, and the friend’s mom made this young man a pie just for him. He said that simple act of kindness was a turning point for him. So simple, yet so profound!

Read on for 5 easy ways to show love to others!

  1. Spend quality time together!

Ask your loved one what they would like to do together or plan something fun that you know he or she likes. We live in a busy world these days, so try your best to squeeze in time when you can. Even if it’s just 10 minutes in the morning before the kids get up! Or if it’s your kids that need extra time, you could sit at the edge of their bed for 5 minutes in the morning before they get up. Talk to them, sing a song together, read a short book.  When you’re with your children, friends, partner, or loved one during this quality time, it’s important to put your phone away and give them your full attention. Answer any texts or calls if you must, but keep it very brief when you are spending that special time together. When you keep your focus on them, they will see how much you care.

2. Use words! 

Sounds obvious right?! Have you heard about specific praise? Most people like to hear more than “good job.” Giving people true and detailed compliments for a job well done is sure to make anyone feel loved. Be specific about what they did that you liked. For example, if your partner makes you a nice meal, tell him or her how much you appreciate the work they put into making you the delicious food. i.e. “You made my favorite dish tonight, you really put a lot of thought into this. I appreciate that. It tasted delicious!” Even a simple, “good meal honey, thank you” goes a long way versus just eating and leaving the table without a word. Before you go to bed every night, say “I love you” to your kids and partner. I know it sounds simple, but how often are we in a hurry and forget? Another idea is to send a quick text to a loved one during the day with thoughtful words. This could be a nice surprise to show that you were thinking of them.

3. Slow down, stop what you’re doing and listen…really listen!

Have you ever said hello to someone, asked them how they’re doing and didn’t even wait to hear their answer? I’m guilty of this, and I’ve been on the receiving end also. I’m sure we all have been in this situation at some point. In these fast pace days we’re living in, it’s so easy to greet someone and keep moving isn’t it? I know, I know, we all have things to do… However, stopping for a few minutes, giving a person eye contact and actually listening is much more caring. You never know what kind of struggles might be going on in the other person’s life. But if you take the time to truly listen, you may be surprised what people will say. They might feel relieved they had even just a few minutes to get something off their chest. So give it a try! Let the other person do most of the talking and truly listen to what they’re saying.

Remember to show empathy! After the person you’re listening to has had some time to talk, show them your concern and understanding. Sometimes a person just wants to hear the other person say, “yes I hear what you’re saying and I agree with you.” However, some people might also like to hear some ideas on how to solve their issue (if they have one). So if you have any suggestions or resources to offer, you could let them know. In the end, life is about giving and taking but also offering!

4. Do something nice!

A kind act could change someone’s day from gloomy to sunny! A kind gesture really can make a difference. Have the coffee ready and poured in the morning. Make breakfast for everyone at your house. Pay for a meal when dining out. Give or send someone a card just to say “thinking of you!” Make your kids their favorite snack! Do an extra chore around the house. Bring your collegues chocolate! I know a lot of my ideas seem to involve food, ha ha! It doesn’t have to involve food though. 🙂

5. Reach out and hug (or high five or fist bump) someone!

But before you reach out to hug, make sure you know if they like to hug. Some people are not huggers, so use your best judgement! But if you know the receiver of your affection does indeed like hugs, go for it! A quick hug, pat on the shoulder, a high five, or fist bump (it’s still flu season after all, lol) is sometimes just what a person needs to make it through their day. How about making up a cool hand shake with your kids? They will love it! It’s a special bond that only you and them share.

What are your favorite ways to show love to others?

Let me know in the comments section!

Until next time, remember, our words and actions really do matter!

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Feelings · Leadership

Another Setback? Oh no, not again!

Hi everyone! First let me start by wishing you all a Happy Valentine’s month! I hope you get to spend some awesome time together with your loved ones. Not only on February 14th, but year round! 

Now, onto my post for today. We all face setbacks. From the time we were kids, until the last days of our lives. They are inevitable. Whether it’s a toy parents refuse to get for their kids, failing a test, not making the team at school, not finding a job, loosing a loved one, a divorce, etc…. you name it. We all have seen them and experienced them.

Here is a list of synonyms according to Google:

Problem, difficulty, hitch, complication, upset, disappointment, misfortune, mishap, reversal; blow, stumbling block, hurdle, hindrance, impediment, obstruction, delay, holdup, informal glitch, hiccup.

All of these situations will have a negative effect on us when they happen. Some might last hours, and others might shadow us into a deep depression that we can’t get out of at all. Some of us might react with anger, and others might react with gluttony of food or drinks. And with some people, these reactions might have severe consequences.

But not everyone reacts that way. Some people rise victorious from a setback- to a better and higher level. So how do they do it??

The answer is within the will power of the person. A will power to succeed, a will power to achieve, and OVERCOME. Like the Phoenix in old Greek mythology, we should always regenerate and rise!

It’s important to explain to your kids that we will face setbacks in our lives. Life is a journey on a bumpy road, and not always an open smooth highway. We need to be like a rugged Jeep, not a delicate plastic car. Face hard situations with resolve to overcome them. Let us set the habit right. After absorbing the shock of the situation, let’s analyze it and obtain the lessons, implement changes, and do it differently next time. Other wise, we will run in a loop and end up at the same location every time!

Albert Einstein said, “the definition of insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting a different result. I regret the error. However, this is where the fun begins.”

So let’s cheer on our kids to be OVERCOMERS! 

Until next time, remember, our words and actions really do matter!

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Feelings · Leadership

Children and Gratitude, is that possible?

Hello everyone!

With Thanksgiving coming up this Thursday in the United States, now is a good time to talk about gratitude and giving thanks!

Gratitude is a feeling of appreciation or thanks. (Source: Webster’s dictionary.)

The question we face as adults is, how do we develop the feeling of gratitude with our kids so that it becomes a habit?

Feelings are at the core of gratitude and being thankful. The question is: what is the key to open up these feelings? One of the answers is within the leadership role of the parents. They should help kids recognize the value of the things they have received or have already achieved. To reach to the inner core of the child is to ask them and open a conversation with him or her. Ask your child how he/she felt when someone did something nice for them. Help him/her express his/her feelings. An important way to develop learning is by using examples. You can give your child an example and ask them how they feel about that situation. “I made you pancakes for breakfast today and you really liked them, right? Did that make you feel happy, good, or excited?” In response to that feeling, let your child know that it’s nice that they respond to that situation by expressing their thanks.

We should teach kids being thankful shouldn’t only be in exciting situations. For example, Uncle John visited us and brought you a gift, what do you tell Uncle John after you received the gift? The child should learn to respond with: “Thank you Uncle John for the gift,” regardless if he/she liked the gift or not. You need to explain to your child that we thank Uncle John because he thought about us ahead of time and invested some time and money in buying the gift.

You might teach your children that it’s good to be specific about what they are saying thank you for, or what they liked or appreciated.

Examples- “I love pancakes, I’m so glad you made them for breakfast today!”

“Thanks for the snack, I was hungry.” “Thanks for the hug, it makes me feel happy!”

It might not be trendy these days, but another way kids can show they are thankful is to respond by writing a thank you card. Whenever your children receive a gift, make sure they make a thank you card for the person that gave them the gift. The youngest kids might not be able to write words yet, but they could draw a picture and dictate to you what they want it to say. Even toddlers can draw a few lines or scribbles with crayons. If you have some finger paint, having them make their hand print would be a fun way to say thanks too. As they get older, they can write in more detail what they liked about their gift. The gift giver and your child will both feel good. Writing the card can create a tangible connection between the sender and the receiver.

Remember not to give in to your child on everything. It’s ok to say no. It really is! This is important! If you give your children every single thing they want, it leaves them little to no room to appreciate anything. They will come to expect everything will be handed to them. Children need to understand that when their parents say no, there’s a good reason for it. This will help them at school also. (Yes, teachers will have to tell your kids no on occasion!)  When you are able to say yes to an extra treat or toy they will be much more excited and appreciative. Let your kids earn those special things they want through doing chores. This is what my father had my brother and I do. At the time I thought this wasn’t fair because all my friends had what they wanted, and they didn’t have to earn it themselves in most cases. But now as an adult, I really appreciate the responsibility my Dad taught us. (Thanks Dad!)

Helping kids to realize the value of the things they own ( received as gift or bought for them ) is an important factor that will last with them towards adulthood.

Have them give to others. Your children will feel good by helping others in need. Have them go through their closet to find clothes that they don’t wear or that don’t fit them anymore. They could find a few toys they don’t use anymore as well. Donate them to a local charity, such as the Salvation Army. Talk to them about people less fortunate than them.  This will help them to see how fortunate they are to have the things that they have.

Before I end this post, I want to emphasize on the things that have no monetary value to the kids directly ( even though it might have value to the parents ) such as the home, furniture, clothes, the family, school, good health, and the value of life itself. We can’t put a price tag on the value of family. These things that some take for granted in life, others might wish they had. We should appreciate having these things in front of the kids. This will be a major factor in shaping their personality when they move towards being independent adults. As I have mentioned in one of my preivious posts, our kids are watching us! (Click here to read more.) We need to be role models for our children. So it’s important to make sure you are doing some of the above mentioned things to show your gratitude too.

I would like to wish all of you a Happy Thanksgiving!

And until next time, remember, our words really do matter!!

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